“Personality is an unbroken series of successful gestures.” – F. Scott Fitzgerald
The words we use while in a conversation only tell a portion of the story. Our body language and expressions may present a different picture than what we are intending. Here are a few things to keep in mind when speaking to people in a group or one-on-one.
Be comfortable in what you are saying. Being relaxed and comfortable puts your audience at ease.
Show authority. You are the leader.
Leaning to one side comes across as though you want to escape the conversation.
Keep your hands free; not behind you, not in your pockets, not arms crossed–these are protective stances we do when we are nervous. Hands on hips shows condescension or parental stance.
Body language can improve vocal expression and solidify that you believe in what you are saying.
Mehrabian’s 7-38-55 Rule:
Words convey 7%
Vocal expression 38%
Body language 55%
Try the HEART POSTURE: Stand your ground physically. Don’t rock or sway. Stand with your feet shoulder-width apart and your knees slightly bent. Head up, chin back.
Lead with your heart. This comes across as authentic.
Refrain from over-gesturing your hands. Your gestures should be scaled and maintained to just in front of you and with purpose.
Remember, gesturesare an outward expression of your inner thoughts and feelings.