“Personality is an unbroken series of successful gestures.” – F. Scott Fitzgerald
The words we use while in a conversation only tell a portion of the story. Our body language and expressions may present a different picture than what we are intending. Here are a few things to keep in mind when speaking to people in a group or one-on-one.
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Be comfortable in what you are saying. Being relaxed and comfortable puts your audience at ease.
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Show authority. You are the leader.
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Leaning to one side comes across as though you want to escape the conversation.
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Keep your hands free; not behind you, not in your pockets, not arms crossed–these are protective stances we do when we are nervous. Hands on hips shows condescension or parental stance.
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Body language can improve vocal expression and solidify that you believe in what you are saying.
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Mehrabian’s 7-38-55 Rule:
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Words convey 7%
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Vocal expression 38%
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Body language 55%
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Try the HEART POSTURE: Stand your ground physically. Don’t rock or sway. Stand with your feet shoulder-width apart and your knees slightly bent. Head up, chin back.
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Lead with your heart. This comes across as authentic.
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Refrain from over-gesturing your hands. Your gestures should be scaled and maintained to just in front of you and with purpose.
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Remember, gestures are an outward expression of your inner thoughts and feelings.
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